ScheduleAndOtherAbuse

 

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Introduction/Definition/etc

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At yesterday's all day (10a-4.30p+ plus commuting time = $25?)

team building exercise/ bylaws meeting,

after requesting that the event not be held in the morning,

and after arriving first (as usual and many times last non paid person

to leave) a late presenter/trainer chosen by new paid 'peer' staff,

and probably with their own personal agenda, unbeknownst to me and

probably most of the people attending the 'training',

tried doing Simon Says, that childish game,

much like the infantalizing provider to consumer attitude and

multiple forms of abuse (e.g. Intrusive: what is your motivation?

and what makes you walk and leave? i.e. deal breakers?, oh and tell

the abusive people your most personal values and decision points? WTF?)

claiming that people not being direct/open, frank and honest

makes meetings take so long then probing for what's going on

in this 'corporation''s dynamics?,

repeatedly asking about the group's mission?

 

Jumping ahead to later yesterday's bylaws meeting,

when bylaws are not developed by consensus, rushed,

hugely outdated, but off on a bylaws committee then

rammed down the rest of the groups' throat, claiming to be legal,

then claiming to be frustrated by the inactivity

of the other people and that others waste

our time? 

 

Begin Surmon on the Mount:

(stepping up on soap box here)

The chair's role is not to tell people to shut up,

but be brief, and get things done, not what the chair wants

but what is good for the group, by the group, and including

people and hearing people in the conversation,

not controlling and exclusive, imho.  More Bullying

and abuse by someone who should have the

experience to know better and claiming to want

a system where people are respected and dignity?

NOT HOW THINGS HAVE BEEN DONE...

 

/End Sermon/ Soapbox, but not opinions

 

 

The team building exercise 'trainer' proceeded to say

we weren't following Simon Says rules in introductions. 

 

Back Up On Soap Box:

The Trainer has no right to tell participants what to do

in a training where the goals, means and purpose was not clear

from the beginning, and something rushed into bandaid

making the group function?  In a voluntary organization

where most people had the sense not to show up,

and paid people including fiscal agent claim to not

be part of the group by their actions of not showing up

or being above it all, when a peer specialist? WTF?

 

/Stepping off the Soap Box/ Sermonizing 

 

A later exercise, paired people based on which chocolate candy

wrapper type was selected (including peanuts which can make one person

violently and possibly deathly ill with allergy).  At snack time,

more peanut products were present...

 

This type of stuff went on for hours, and after a fire alarm interruption

and further blather bled into the time for bylaws

with further meaningless chatter and self promotion.

 

The person who requested the team building, was not present,

perhaps due to the misinterpretation and lack of say in how the

request was handled and implemented?

 

Another called in on the phone (the third not to bother showing up,

while others make the effort to commute, sometimes by the longest

and most difficult means, early instead of reasonable times given factors),

and was fairly quickly absent from the rest of the training

following not hearing and being included

in the training by phone teleconference means.

 

Turns out the trainer is a provider with a masters in public administration

but the attitude was clear from the beginning, and the person selecting

the trainer did not bother to be part of the 'team', claiming to have already

known the material, and too busy?  Peer indeed...

 

One ironic situation was that the trainer claimed that people should

not be left feeling angry, used and betrayed, and other such things

after a meeting.  Like a romantic partner, the trainer analogied,

should not go to bed angry, as it's not good for the relationship. 

This has regularly been the case with me, (and hence why I 'blog'

and report here on  NoVAPeers.pbwiki) and the next bylaws meeting

felt physically ill being railroaded/ unheard by the bylaws /

ExecutingCommittee/ education co chair who steals website money

for his education goals for several more hours...

 

So when people ask for feedback, you're getting it.  So So sorry it's not

what you want to hear, but you've 'earned it' by your and/or other

ExecutingCommittee actions.

 

 

Only Positives?

 

After wasting so much time with a broken team, the bylaws

meeting had exhausted people forced to accept things and

somewhat discussed the real mission, traditional officers roles

within a typical legal context but changes were not well

heard, no recently purchased projector was used for a wordsmithing

event, and will see how it turns out?

 

 

Summary

 

A skathing review noting scheduling and timing is everything,

respect is lacking and ExecutingCommittee don't hear consumers

in an organization that is supposed to be about recovery, empowerment

dignity, and all that.  Another case in point,

this team building and bylaws meeting yesterday...

 

 

Conclusion

 

Nobody cares, the Bullying sequel, ignoring what we are to be

about, by how we do things...

 

Discussion

 

Letters to the editor will be accepted on this and other wiki pages.

As always, not expecting you to contribute, as hasn't happened

in two years, despite repeated ad nausium attempts to give

people ideas and a perspective on what to share with the community

at large, so why expect people to start now when too late?

 

Beating a dead dream...?

 

Page History

20080130 Jerry

• Jerry writes these things as therapy after abuse, left with feelings
• of anger, being used and betrayal after something that is suppsed to be about recovery
• and empowerment in a system that is known for creating violent shooters (e.g. M Kennedy & SH Cho... .

 

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